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So last night I talked to my parents about getting some help but they ended up fussing at me because "you're making this a much bigger deal than it is" and "OCD is a posative thing; I wish your sister had it so she wouldn't be such a slob", "just a label some shrink made up". So much for talking to them about what goes on in my head. I don't want to go back into self-destructive isolation again, though. What should I do?

 
By akp5120 on Sun, 02-12-12, 21:22

sometimes people who don't have disorders and issues don't and can't understand. i was extremely depressed and my mother brushed it aside until i landed myself in the hospital with alcohol overdose and attempted suicide. you really just need to stay strong and reach out for support on your own. you can do it, i know you can stay strong and become resilient and fight through it. don't let it bring you down!

feel free to send me a message if you ever want to talk

Keep calm & carry on.

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By AnonymousAddict on Mon, 02-13-12, 01:44

I don't mean to be crass but, f*uck them! Don't let anyone stop you from seeking help. You know you have a problem and that's all that matters. I hope you do what's best for you.

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By Issy A on Tue, 02-14-12, 13:18

Its very hard to understand any mental illness when you haven't been through it yourself and unfortunately there is a still a huge social stigma about mental health issues and therapists. But you can't let this stop you from getting help. Is there anyone else you could talk e.g. friends or other family? Is there any help offered through school/work? There are also a lot of charities and helplines that could you might benefit from. I know its hard but make sure you do whats best for you regardless of what others think!

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By Alex23 on Thu, 02-16-12, 14:53

I understand exactly. I've had that so much and I've often been referred to as someone who creates problems out of nothing by my parents and told that I'm sick and disgusting for having these thoughts and feelings. it can really take a toll on someone. I think these comments just worsen the situation as a whole and make you feel a whole lot worse already about the problem at hand.

From my own experience, I've always ended up cutting my family out of my life almost completely after their comments about my problems. I've often felt isolated and completely alone because nobody seems interested enough to even bother listening. I feel as though I've got no real friends and not even a real family.

Thank you for supporting me, and because you are, I'd like to do the same for you. I hope that you get through this and get the help you need. I'm sorry that the people whose opinions count so much, as all sons/daughters want their parents to care, have said such awful things to you and I truly do hope that as time goes on they realise what they're doing. I wish you all the best!

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By lcarter66 on Thu, 02-23-12, 16:55

My heart goes out to you! One of the most difficult aspects of any mental illness is that most people have a difficult time REALLY understanding what you are trying to cope with. Reaching out to someone and asking for help is one of the most vulnerable situations you can be in; to be turned away from people you love and need can create feelings of self-hatred, depression, anxiety... the list goes on. In most cases, these negative feelings only make your illness worse.

There really is no excuse for your parents' attitude, but they may be acting this way because they are uneducated about your condition, they are embarrassed, or they're selfish. Regardless of the reason(s), these are THEIR issues, and none of these reasons negate your feelings.

Please continue to reach out for help. If you can't get the support you need from your family, do as Issy A suggested: talk with a school counselor, an understanding teacher, a family friend.

Please, don't give up - you are worth the effort and you deserve to receive the help you need.

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